In the words of Nelly McClung circa 1915:
Never retract, never explain, never apologize – get the thing done and let them howl.
I don’t want to call this a reaction but it’s a tangent inspired an email I received that had the phrase “I will f-ing kill you” in it.
I’m no stranger to hate mail and have received a dozen or so angry messages in the past. My favorite was when I was interviewed in the Globe and Mail about my Teen Angst Poetry website when I was 23 and a guy wrote to say, “you may be hot but if you’re not in Hollywood by now you’ll never make it.” Of course this guy totally had me pegged. I had aspirations of getting a boob job, bleaching my hair and casting couching my way to the top of Maxiums Hot List, but he was right, 23 was already over the hill.
Obviously something I did struck a deep, dark and depressed cord with someone out there in the comfortable world of cyber space. That’s cool. Reactions are better than apathy.
I am reminded of a powerful scene in “A Piece of Work” a recently released documentary about Joan Rivers. While in small town USA she makes a joke about deaf children and a heckler shouts out, “That’s not funny when you have a deaf son.” Joan jumps back, “Oh yes it is! Humor is how we deal with things. You stupid man.” Either you get this or you don’t.
What I do in my work is feel and share. Sure, it’s narcissistic but the hope is that if I’ve felt this way someone else has too. The slant I want to have on it is that we should never take ourselves too seriously, because given the choice between anger and joy, I’m going to choose joy… and dance to early-90s techno.
In looking for advice on the internet on how to deal with haters I came across this: Beyonce’s advice on dealing with haters when she was 16.
Ok for serious, this is the best way to deal with haters: http://mashable.com/2010/04/29/deal-with-haters-tim-ferriss/
So haters keep it coming. You’re only making me, and everyone else who gets your angry incomprehensible rants, stronger. Plus I have posting authority over comments on my site.